[Toronto Sun] A local bookstore has “sold out” of a controversial marriage guide that advises Muslim men on how to beat their wives. The 160-page book, published by Idara Impex in New Delhi, India, is written by Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi, who’s described in the book’s foreword as a “prolific writer on almost every topic of Islamic learning.” The store’s manager, who didn’t give his name, said the book had been sold out for some time, and the store’s owner, whom the manager identified as Shamim Ahmad, refused to comment for the story. It wasn’t clear whether the shop has ordered more copies of the book, but it’s available at online Islamic bookstores and even through eBay. In the book’s opening pages, it is written that “it might be necessary to restrain her with strength or even to threaten her.” Later, its author advises that “the husband should treat the wife with kindness and love, even if she tends to be stupid and slow sometimes.” Page 45 contains the rights of the husband, which include his wife’s inability to leave “his house without his permission,” and that his wife must “fulfil his desires” and “not allow herself to be untidy … but should beautify herself for him … ” In terms of physical punishment, the book advises that a husband may scold her, “beat by hand or stick,” withhold money from her or “pull (her) by the ears,” but should “refrain from beating her excessively.” Moderate Muslim voice Tarek Fatah says the shopkeeper should be charged for selling such a book. “I wouldn’t say it’s hate, but it is inciting men to hit women,” said Fatah.
I’m not a huge believer in fate, but the fact that I came across this book on Scrody’s wife’s birthday speaks volumes otherwise. That’s not to say he’s a wife-beater – he’s certainly not – but I think that’s simply because he doesn’t know how to do it. I know it sounds like it’d make more sense to give to him on HIS birthday, but that’s not true. Yes, it’d teach him the proper way to dole out discipline, but that would, in turn, help make his wife a better woman. Let’s be honest here – I don’t doubt there have been times which called upon Scrody to “restrain her with strength or even to threaten her” because she left “his house without his permission”. If he fully understood the correct way to “pull her by the ears”, his wife would eventually learn “not to allow herself to be untidy”. However, instead of unloading haymakers and doing it all wrong, he simply lets these acts go unpunished. So what better gift to give than something that’d strengthen their relationship? Anyone who knows anything knows that “beating her excessively” gets you locked up, but the occasional reminder “by hand or stick” does nothing but make for a happy home – “even if she tends to be slow and stupid sometimes”.